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Date: Mon, 7 Aug 2000 23:18:46 -0700
To: "Social Accountability" <s-acc@egroups.com>
From: "Beckie Child" <beckie@quik.com>
Subject: Re: [s-acc] questionnaire
Andrew,

I prefer the non-intrusive ways.  :)  The questionnaire was something that a couple of other people told me about so I thought I’d pass it along. I do understand your reluctance in using it. And I appreciate the respect that you give to “power” issues accorded to moderators.

I prefer dialogue and discussion. In fact, I’ve discovered different styles of moderation between lists. I prefer lists that take into account people’s feelings, ideas, etc. rather than a parental idea of this is the rule because I said so. We are adults.

I struggle with people who personalize their views/complaints/attacks. I know that for many people what we are talking about is personal. However, if we remember to disagree with ideas and not people, I think we can accomplish more. Sure, it takes more work because people need to be able to assess their feelings and evaluate when they are having knee-jerk responses. Knee-jerk responses aren’t bad, they simply are, but developing the ability to assess and evaluate your response and find an alternative usually helps you get what you want in a more effective manner. I believe that you get a better outcome in the end.

Beckie Child