Dear Vvv .. I have known you for a while now, and under very close circumstances during our Finding Our Voice training....I seldom comment on folk's posts because I truly believe that this site has become, not only an information exchange, but also a "testing" site for various opinions and messages .. but to attribute the radical turn in tone that it had taken of recent months to the "staleness" of the moderator Is unacceptable to me .. Rst has given truly of her time, talent and patience .. attempting to stand by a code of least interference, to treat list members as adults, hoping we would police our own Behavior .. when it became apparent that there would be no "correction" in movement, she did indeed step in, and with a heavy heart .. please appreciate the work that Rst put into developing this site, guiding it thru its infancy, and then allowing it with respect to mature into a full-fledged listserve .. I too am heartbroken that it took such a bitter turn, but it was not the responsibility of the moderator for us to exhibit dignity and respect to each other .. she just had to call a halt to hurtful comments .. so don't blame the "piano player" .. consider the tunes being played .. I thank Rst for all she's done, both for this site and her work in QI and I send my love to her .. also to the gang in Santa Barbara and throughout the state ..