Hector Aristizábal

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From: "Andrew Phelps" <starfish@northcoast.com>

Date: Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:20:38 -0700

Subject: Re: [s-acc] re: classic on communication and conflict resolution

 

Ttt, and Onm:

I have my own 'history' with the perspective of Carl Rogers, including being co-leader of "Encounter Groups" based on the Rogerian model in the 60s in Berkeley. My own critique is that this approach went "pretty far" but that ultimately issues of torture denial, things connected with homeland security tended to provide limits. One can only go so far when social science is "prescientific," anyway.

I became a community organizer :-) and then I realized that the "Encounter Groups" were being "taken over" by the "homeland security" ("pacification," it was termed) of that era. When I organized a confrontation with the program, the net result was that Radical Therapy "took over" and the influence of the "Encounter Groups" was lessened. I and my friends were shoved aside.

In 1976 when I tried to "come back" and got admitted as a 2nd B.A. student in psychology at U.C. Berkeley, I "sneaked" into a packed APA meeting in Washington, DC and heard Carl Rogers in person give a major presentation. Unfortunately at Berkeley afterwards it was the negative agenda of Zimbardo "influencing attitudes and changing behaviors" which took over. Radical therapy (RT) was marginalized (as "Games People Play") and again .. I was shoved aside.

In 1993 the RT was revived, with a new concern for the ongoing encounter with the prescientific character of social science, by the Radical Psychology Network. We are honored in this discussion that today Ttt is the listowner for their listserve. Eventually some of us worked with their leadership to get PsySR to take up the project of networking meaningfully with the "client-survivor" activists. However the "torture denial" issue took the upper hand and PsySR got involved with the PENS process and the conflict between "building cultures of peace" and the military torture agenda at Guantánamo, Abu Ghraib, and Bagram. Once again we were shoved aside.

Now with the successes of "Ethical APA" in challenging the mentality of "torture denial," once again we are looking at constructing the "re-networking" which is the subtext of these many posts. We are asked by PsySR to present a proposal (see previous discussions here) and presumably their "OpCom" will pull things together at Toronto APA 2009 (about 8-10 days from now), and hopefully finally sanction the good sense of this project. Anyway that's my "here and now" and "feelings."

I've also presented Zimbardo's reductionist behavior management agenda as the theory behind the shove aside. Have people ever looked at his "here and now" and his denial system around feelings?

 

Andrew Phelps

 

 

Ttt wrote:

Thanks for sending this.  Much of my early training included works of Carl Rogers.  I have put together my own programs on both communication and conflict resolution but they include works of several well-known people.  I use the Byker-Anderson Communication model and a conflict resolution course published by the Dept. of Justice for schools along with the DiSC Model of Behavior and Morris Massey's values model. After teaching the basics of communication, I help each person to understand how they can best communicate and resolve conflicts based on their needs-driven behavior, values, and attitudes in concert with social norms.  In between the communication and conflict resolution, I teach them stress management.  I believe everyone needs skills in all three.

A part of what I teach on communication is "people reading."  I teach you how to read another person in 60 seconds whether the other person is present or on the phone, so you will know how to communicate to them in a way that will make them angry; make them happy; or cause them to become motivated to do what you want them to do. I had been teaching this for several years when I met a woman who was contracted to the Navy to teach Navy Seals how to read people from South American drug cartels that they interrogated.  She shared some of her materials with me and helped me update my seminar.  She is now teaching criminal justice at Texas A&M.